How To Tell If Someone's Lying
19 Jun 2017
Envision a world where everyone told the truth. In honour of Tell The Truth Day, here are 5 simple ways to catch someone out on a lie.
1. KNOW EXACTLY WHAT TO ASK
When it comes to finding the truth, be direct in your approach - don't leave room for misinterpretation. This technique is better referred to as a 'Volatile Conundrum', which motivates a prompt reaction. And people who lie are unable to deal with this.
2. THE EYES TELL ALL
If you've ever watched the hit TV show Lie To Me, then you'll surely understand how the eyes do tell all. As telling a lie takes much more effort than telling the truth, dilated pupils, which often result from over-thinking, are a major sign of lying. On the other hand, avoiding eye contact is also a significant indicator.
3. NOTICE BODY LANGUAGE
As you speak to someone, pay close attention to how their body moves. Liars will typically shift their body weight away from you. A great way to recognise this is to observe the direction a person's feet are facing at the beginning of your conversation, and recognise if this changes following your question.
4. PICK UP ON VERBAL TICS
Often in response to a Volatile Conundrum, a person who's lying will use verbal tics like 'er', 'um', 'ah' or 'like' within a sentence to provide enough time to make something up. Depending on the individual's vernacular, this isn't always the case. However, if someone who's usually quite clear starts using tics - it's most likely they're lying.
5. GATHER EVIDENCE
This doesn't mean switching on detective mode like you're in an episode of Law & Order, though it does help to have proof - especially when making an accusation. This will help you to prevent the same lie from being told again.
Even our loved ones lie, but sometimes we need to forgive. And since today also happens to be 'Global Forgiveness Day', kiss and make up at Fast Break Café, open 6 days a week, for your next coffee run, breakfast or sweet treat.
Kiss It Better!